Relationship Work

Those that can’t seem to move through these stuck places. Genuine honesty, including energetic honesty is required.

This means learning incredibly brave self-reflection and the skills to grow a tolerance to “swallow glass” and consider our deepest motivations and maturity-gaps, not just those we so easily see in our partners.

These shadow components come up in intense relationships because it’s one way our unconscious wounding can come to the surface. In this sense I see that difficult stages within coupledom can be a healthy, normal stage, bucking the trend of typical couple work models which often label certain traits as pathological and therefore silence the couple from working through these.

I see difficult stages as temporary rites of passage into greater wisdom and a way of learning how to be deeply compassionate and safe as each other grows into their full potential, unafraid of judgement.

If someone is celebrated and supported when they identify an old belief or behaviour that no longer serves, the couple will hold a safe container to become the humans they want to be and get the privileged front seat position of watching their partner’s transformation.

I know how to pivot and apply unique mentoring to couples that feel the despair of ruptures that feel unsolvable.

This is not for couples in active affairs or not in love or not wanting long term fulfilment and growth. The “referee” model of couple’s work will not be used. 

I believe that we all have parts of us that can speak and behave in less mature ways and that these parts are to be honored as having past survival value but need some mentoring on how to put down their protective armor.